Reflections

Reflections of a Dom#4: Establishing routines [Special Edition]

Talk-Like-A-Pirate-Day-September-19-ImageAhoy, mateys! Today is a special day. September 19 is recognized as “Talk Like a Pirate Day”! So, come on, grab your grog, and get ready because it is all hands on deck! Cap’n is going to tell ye a secret of mine. It’s something that I, and me precious First mate, and Wee Lass (My Little girl, for all ye land lubbers! :D), Kitten Kaboodle do, that help in our relationship.

Ya see, Kitten had discussed in detail how important it is to establish routine as a Wee Lass.  But I wanted to touch on how important it is for a Cap’n like me as well. We all have things we do in our day to day lives that is part of our routine. Be it, scrubbing the deck first thing in the mornin’ or hopping in the shower to get ready for work. Or preparing yummy grub for yer shipmates or a delicious poached egg on toast for your Wee Lass. We all have that something we do that gives us comfort and structure in our day.

Now ye might be thinking, how do the routines help? Now now, before ye force me to walk the plank, let me tell you.

Ya see, a day in the life of a sea Cap’n can be stressful, rival pirates be roamin’ or the Royal Navy could be huntin’ us down. But that is my role, I am the bread winner. Kitten and I have a rapport at home, I bring in the booty for the day and Kitten helps wash off the stress of the day.  My Wee Lass and I, we practice give and take. It’s a song and dance that has helped us for years. Because of our routine, it gives her security knowing that I will be coming home straight to her after work. No fooling around or taking detours in dangerous waters. She knows that she is my priority, that I will get back to her as soon as I can. And I will not waver in my mission.

She knows that I will focus and love on her after she has painstakingly cared for me ship and our child all day. My actions lets her feel appreciated and loved for all that she does. Similarly, for me, seeing her eyes light up as I walk in the door and given a big hug and sweet kiss, makes me feel that all the hard work I did for the day worth it.

istockphoto-654498910-612x612One of me favorite routines we do is our night time routine. At night, it’s my job to tuck in me Wee Lass. I get her ready by both of us hopping in the shower and washing her body down thoroughly, using me hands and body. I love feeling the sliding of her silky smooth skin against mine, my cocoa skin pressed against her milky complexion sends shivers down me nethers. And afterwards, we get her dressed in her pajamas and then it’s time for bedtime. Once she’s nestled comfortably in the hammock, I place a heating pad on her chest to make sure she’s warm all night. Then I pull up the covers up to her chin and then we start our evenin’ prayers. Lastly, I rock her to sleep by swayin’ the hammock – it replicates the swayin’ of our ship and allows her to sleep peacefully. (You can read about her thoughts HERE)

A proper night time routine, when done right, allows me and me Wee Lass  to have closure to the day. It sets us in the right mindset that we ended the day with so much love and she knows that I care about her deeply to make sure she gets proper sleep. It gives her body a chance to let go of stress and know that she’s under me protection. She knows her Cap’n will never let anything bad happen to her and the crew. Our routine is established in love, intimacy and security.

However, remember that it’s a good idea to have balance in all things. Too much routine, and ye risk having a bloody mutiny in yer hands. So remember to mix it up! Take yer Wee Lass on to the library (I hear the one in Alexandria is ripe for the pickins’!), or bring her favorite treats right on home! She’s workin’ hard as my first mate, keeping our ship in order,  educating our young tyke, and writing the chronicles for ye all. She deserves a break! Show her that you’re dependable and consistent like an anchor for her in the storm. But also show that you are the mainsail who can take her on adventures untold!

That’s all for now, mateys! May your sails stay true and fair winds to you all!

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Much love,

Captain Taliron Quinn

 

 

 

6 thoughts on “Reflections of a Dom#4: Establishing routines [Special Edition]

  1. Yes, routines and rituals are something we humans all need. They give structure and comfort in an unpredictable world. And with Trump at the helm, steering the Ship of State toward the rocky shoals, we need all the structure we can get.

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    1. Completely agreed. It has definitely been a huge source of comfort for Kitten and I. I know it throws Kitten off when I don’t do the usual things I do for her in the morning (getting her morning tea, getting her settled & kissing her goodbye before I leave for work). Thanks for the comment, matey! 😉

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    1. Well, well, if it isn’t Jodie. Thank ye for enjoying me post, lass! I’m glad yer own Cap’n have a similar routine! Sure is of great import in running a tight ship. I’ll be postin’ more once I finish me travels o’er the seven seas. Fair winds to ye and yer crew!

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